"Wherever we invest our life energies, we grow in that direction.
Critical decision for all of us is where we devote our time, energy and resources.”
"Peace and joy are not visible from outside, only cars and houses and diamonds are.
The illusion and glitter of the world take the man astray from his true pursuit of sense of well being."
"The closer you are to reality, the happier you will be.
It is really as simple as that.”
"Paradox of Services:
I serve my interest best when I serve others”
"Successful life is the one when a person is able to live in a very good mood most of the time and
induces similar feelings in others when he relates with them.”
"Creativity can be defined as combining two ideas previously unrelated to
create something new which adds value in society in some way.”
"Distractions are the biggest threat to succeeding in life;
hence the importance of self-control and focus.”
"Becoming a great leader is a lifelong process.”
"Focus is achieved when one is emotionally bonded to the goal.”
"The sacrifice of comfort now is of course compensated by greater good later,
that is the principle or law of human processes.”
"Events, happenings, sayings or people do not bring happiness or sorrow,
it is our interpretation and evaluation of them that does so.”
"Once the goal is decided then put 100% in it for its realization.”
"The key to a quality life lies in our attitude towards our work.
We have the power to change our attitudes and thus transform our life.”
"Happiness is in the here and now and never in the future!”
"Discipline in a way means that we avoid getting distracted by our likes and dislikes and remain focussed.”
"Stress upto a certain extent is useful and it becomes harmful
only when it increases in degree and duration, the eu-stress and distress, as it is called.”
"The foremost attitude, which promotes learning, is humility.
This attitude indicates the evaluation that one does not know all and can learn from others.”
"A deeper commitment to group's or team's causes comes only from strongly identifying with the culture of a group.”
"The problem does not end by blaming others or the situation.
For, neither of them change or transform when we blame them, leading to a status quo.”
"Risk taking: Move beyond your comfort zone;
Expand the horizons of your life by taking risks and being innovative.”
"An important growth agenda for every person is:
examination of one's value system and becoming more clear about it.”
"A tip for enhancing creativity:
Create an optimum stress level where you perform the best. Alternate stress with periods of relaxation.”
"Do not blame others. Learn to use the energy of hurt, loss, frustration and so on in looking at
what one can do differently so that one does not get one does not want.”
"Discipline is the core competence for happiness in life!
Build a capacity of balanced self-regulation in all aspects of your life, including physical fitness and relationships.”
"Heartful life: Relate and live in sync with your feelings.”
"The more we understand the causes and cures of our sorrows and sufferings
the more we will be free from them. Hence focus on self-understanding; spend energy on it.”
"Blaming others, i.e. making others responsible for one’s situation is
one of the commonest style of operating for self dis-empowered persons.”
"The punishment nature gives us for blaming others is that
we keep suffering from our problems.”
"Mistakes are a hard knock of lesson by life.”
"When our expectations are fulfilled, we are happy. When frustrated, we are miserable.
Therefore be aware of your expectations and learn how they influence your well-being.”
"Transparency: be open about your inner world to others; bring undercurrents on the surface.”
"Paradox of simplicity: One becomes simple when one has the complex understanding of life and vice versa.”
"Paradox of life: What seems more valuable to the eye, the tangibles are actually of no real value.
The true value is in the intangibles of human qualities of head and heart.”
"Relating from the heart (feelings) makes people connect with you at a deeper level.”
"Empathy means being able to experience the other person’s world with his/her eyes.
It means knowing what the other person is feeling, why and how one is feeling this way
and lastly conveying one’s empathic understanding to the concerned person.”
"Ethical persons enjoy a better quality of life and relationships.
It may not be materially rich but it is qualitatively much richer.”
"Be rich in feelings. The real poverty is the poverty of great feelings.
Feelings are the most valuable currency in this world. The greatest asset is the skill in generating great feelings and
greatest liability is the ineptitude that generates negative feelings.”
"Behave responsibly: take responsibility for whatever happens to you.”
"Deepest satisfaction comes after completion of projects that
involve lot of obstacles and problems and challenges; Luck favours the persistent.”
"Self-worth : do I believe I am important?”
"High self-worth : Dream Big Audacious goals.”
"If one is relaxed and not stressed, one tends to experience better feelings.
Peak experiences have a deep impact on the conditioning of the feelings.”
"There are a whole lot of feelings but they can broadly be classified into following four categories:
(1) Sad (2) Bad (3) Glad (4) Mad
Each category has a wide range of emotions, which can vary in intensity from mild to very intense.”
"Ultimately, one wants to be happy at all times; the lower the expectations, the greater the scope for happiness.
Increasing expectations from others can help them to put in a greater effort and achieve bigger results,
but, for oneself, it may reduce happiness.”
"The greater my darkness about my own self, the greater is my sorrow.
Or in other words, my joy in life increases in direct proportion to my understanding of life.”
"By and large, happiness is determined by internal factors like attitudes, values, social self, desires and expectations
and not on external factors like money, comforts, worldly success,
Be aware that external raz-mataz/ chamak-damak befools persons into believing that one will become happy by having that.”
"Attention on the feelings in oneself helps one to learn about various ways of learning the subtle causes and consequences of feelings.
Practice being in the moment and experience the feelings one is experiencing.”
"Feelings are generated by various attitudes, values etc.
If we can examine our attitudes and values in the light of feelings they produce,
it will help us to align the same in favour of producing finer quality feelings.”
"Mindfulness : Live perpetually watchful of your consciousness and all that is happening to you.
That's the key to life of freedom and happiness!”
"There is ground reality about our own selves. What we think of ourselves and what we actually are and what we ideally want to be.
Life will be full of difficulties if our reality and our self-image are very different.”
"If we are not clear about our goal whether it is of career, family, sports or academic,
then these desires surreptitiously distract us away from our goal.
We get hooked to new desires that demand our time and energy and resources.
This time, energy and resources are subtracted from our main goal’s resources making us loose our goal.”
"As a value, richness of emotional life is far more valuable than the material riches.”
"when a person loves his work, he performs well in all the aspects of his work.
One’s love is visible in one’s work. If the attitude towards work is to “do it somehow”, then shoddy work will be the result.”
"Almost any change in environment – even a pleasant change , such as a vacation - demands some coping;
and a little stress is useful in helping us adapt. But beyond some point, stress becomes distress.”
"Character building is a long drawn process where short-term gains have to be sacrificed for long-term gains.”
"Most of what we learn from others comes to us by watching and modeling.
Hence character is better teacher than words, both as a leader and parents.”
"Attitude: Adopt a win-win attitude when you are dealing with others.”
"We must decide to devote some time everyday for our development;
it can be as simple as reflecting on our behaviours or reading a good book on the subject, or discussion on our life issues with others.
Or attending self-development programmes, writing personal journals, meditating and so on.”
"Humility, The Sign of Wisdom :
Accepting my smallness :
My ground reality is that I can die of any disease at any point in time.
I could go bankrupt, suffer humiliation or have an accident at any time.
Further, I realised that I know very little of life, even of my professional field.”
"People without satisfactory work get stressed and feel worthless.”
"Overcome dysfunctional emotional conditioning from the past childhood experiences of family and social life.
Self Awareness of and dealing with all the personal growth issues blocking one’s personality.”
"The more strongly one identifies with a particular group, the greater is the introjection of the group’s values and culture for that person.
This is also the process by which the culture of a family is passed on from one generation to another. This process is called socialization.”
"Authenticity: Be honest with yourself and others.”
"Well concentration means that we are not distracted from where our attention is.
Concentration results when there are no distractions.”
"I have coined a new phrase: money porn or finance porn used by scamster
to lure people into financial schemes of making them rich by conjuring dreams of huge profits.
Does this term fits well for above?”
"Something that is a source of joy today becomes the source of sorrow when we lose it.
In happiness lies the seed of unhappiness.”
"The need to be understood, especially by close family members, is a fundamental need that is rarely satisfied for the majority of people.
Therefore ability to understand others, empathise with others is crucial for good relationships.”
“This world is a school where man is given freedom to learn to act in a responsible manner.
When man acts with accountability, one gets joy, happiness and fulfilment and when acts without responsibility, the consequence is pain and suffering.
Learning to act with responsibility does not come naturally.
It is a long-drawn-out process of mistakes, failures, suffering and reflection.
Some people learn and pass while others may fail and suffer.”
“We are responsible for all the feelings we experience. Nobody else is responsible to produce any feelings in us.
It is our attitudes, values, evaluations, self- image and other such elements that generate feelings.
In short the power to generate the range of positive and negative feelings is in us and not in outsiders.”
“How one has lived one’s life is revealed as we grow old.
If we are learner it becomes more and more positive and happy and satisfying in many ways.
While for Non-learners life becomes a source of suffering in old age.
Fortunate is the one who keeps learning throughout life from all kinds of experiences and people with an attitude of humility.
This is not easy but with practice it becomes one’s second nature.”
“If we are not clear about our goal whether it is of career, family, sports or academic then these desires surreptitiously distract us away from our goal.
We get hooked to new desires that demand our time and energy and resources.
This time, energy and resources are subtracted from our main goal’s resources making us loose our goal.
This may seem simple but it is the most common reason of our not succeeding in our ventures.
You very well know, when the sun’s rays are focussed they burn the paper.
But the same rays without lens do not have the power to generate enough heat.”
“If we love and enjoy our work, life is heavenly or if we hate or dislike our work then life is hellish.
It can be anywhere somewhere between these two extremes.
If we want to improve the quality of our life we need to give ample attention on the kind of our work and our attitude towards work.”
“Why is it that some people learn more from life experiences than others?
Reason is very simple: they learn to learn and therefore learn fast.
Ability to draw learning for future use from one’s experiencing is an important and perhaps rare skill.
It is perhaps rare because life is full of people who keep committing the same mistakes again and again in a cyclic fashion.”
“A lot of our energy goes into acquiring money, fame, power and material possessions.
If only we de-hypnotize ourselves from this social conditioning, we will have a lot more energy for learning and growing.
Since peace of mind, well-being and happiness are not visible and concrete, we associate success with material things that are visible and spend energy in their pursuits. Life processes are very subtle and one can easily be led astray.”
“Choose groups that help us in our lives and also benefit the society.
All of us are members of some group or the other. In fact most of us are members of many groups simultaneously.
To some groups we are emotionally very close while towards others we may be very formal or emotionally distant.
The reality of our life is that we are born in a small group, our own family, to which we are generally very close.
This close family group has the most profound effect on our personalities and consequently our life.
Dynamics of the group in its influencing our life is a fascinating story.
It is a grey-area of expertise where very little is known to a common person, yet its influence on every one’s life is the profoundest.
The more we can understand its influence on us the more we can use it to transform our lives for the better.
Also avoid falling prey to its vicious use by some unhealthy groups.”
“If we love and enjoy the work life is heavenly or if we hate or dislike our work then life is hellish.
It can be anywhere somewhere between these two extremes.
So if we want to improve the quality of our life we need to give ample attention on the kind of our work and our attitude towards work.
If my attitude towards work is like worship to God, I will treat it as a sacred activity
and that means I value it a lot, give great regard to all the aspects of my work and do them well.
Nothing is more important than work for me then. Nothing can stop me from succeeding in life if I hold this attitude towards work.
This is also the secret of excelling in one’s work. Moreover, if we love and enjoy the work we do,
our customers will also enjoy the fruits of our labour more, because a product of love has to be a quality product, it can not be otherwise.”
